I have been watching this thread and finally feel like I know what I’d like to contribute:
I think it’s really important that the person who started this thread felt comfortable raising the question of how comfortable others felt with this event being part of the weekend. It means the right sort of parameters were set up that asking questions and sharing feelings about what happened at SHUX is possible. This is really important, and kudos to this community for making that safe space.
As there are multiple perspectives here and clearly different feelings, I wonder why some participants in this discussion feel the need to tell others that their feelings about what happened are wrong or incorrect? Feelings are feelings, I get to have them regardless of what I intellectually think about things, and so do others. My feeling of discomfort isn’t something you get to have an opinion on, it’s my feeling.
To me the important questions are: Is this burlesque show going to hinder people from attending SHUX in the future? Did it hinder anyone from attending this year?
To me, the most important thing about this con is how inclusive and purposefully safe it is. If a particular event makes someone feel unsafe or unwelcome, then we need to ask ourselves, “would not including a burlesque show make the con less appealing or less well-attended?” My guess is no. I suspect most people would have attended even if there were no burlesque show.
But, if someone didn’t attend because of it, or in the future would not attend because of it, that, to me, is a problem. It doesn’t matter what I think of burlesque, what matters is that by including the burlesque show, some might feel the con is not safe or welcoming. And I want everyone to feel safe and welcome to play games and learn new games and enjoy the board games that are the main focus of this con.